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Glossary
Many of the words used throughout these web
pages are briefly defined here.
Many are linked to web pages discussing the concept in depth.
- Aggression:
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Any behavior directed toward the goal of harming or injuring
another living being (who is motivated to avoid such treatment).
- Alliance:
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Any situation where one individual benefits from the support
of another against a third party.
- Altruism:
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Definition
- Annoyance:
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A mild form of anger.
- Anger:
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An emotion triggered by a loss
attributed to a willful and unjust agent.
- Anger Display:
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Shouting, threatening, or becoming violent or abusive as an
expression of anger or dominance.
- Apology:
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A sincere acknowledgement of
responsibility and wrongdoing
- Architecture for Interaction
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A particular integrated model
for constructive human interaction.
- Archetype:
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Definition
- Arrogance:
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Synonym for Hubris.
- Asymmetrical:
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Unbalanced. Uneven. Unequal. Inequitable. Lopsided. One-sided.
- Authentic:
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Real and accurate. Having a genuine and verifiable origin. Not
fake, phony, or counterfeit.
- Authentic Person:
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Anyone with aligned and congruent self
image, status, and public
image. An authentic person understands their
authentic self and acts congruently with it.
- Authority:
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The right or legitimacy to enforce rules, give orders, or allocate resources.
The scope of positional power.
- Autonomy:
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Acting on our own unfettered choice.
- Belief:
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A statement, assertion, or theory you accept as true.
- Bonded Pair Species:
- Definition
- Bullying
- Abuse of power.
- Calm:
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Definition - provide a page of relaxation resources.
- Catharsis:
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Definition
- Change:
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Definition
- Cheating
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Definition
- Chemistry
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Informal and approximate synonym for
primal messages
- Classical conditioning
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Definition
- Coercion:
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Using fear or intimidation to attempt to motivate someone or
to or reduce their available options.
- Condescending:
- Implying superior status. Synonyms include
patronizing, snobbish, and arrogant.
- Community:
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Definition
- Compassion:
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Definition
- Competence:
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Definition in the
context of self efficacy theory.
- Congruence:
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Agreement, harmony, alignment, conformity, or correspondence.
- Debate:
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To engage in argument by discussing opposing points
- Delegate:
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To assign work and responsibility to someone else.
- Dialog:
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A conversation between two or more people acting as peers. An
exchange of ideas or opinions.
- Discussion:
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Consideration of a subject by a group. Talk or writing in
which the pros and cons of a subject are considered.
- Distortions:
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Definition
- Defiance:
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Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of
another. [same as rebel?]
- Desire:
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Definition, contrast with goal.
- Dignity:
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The quality of worth and honor intrinsic to every person. The
threshold level of status required to meet basic
human needs.
- Disrespect:
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Discounting or challenging the worth, status, or dominance of
another. Refusing to show respect.
- Dogma:
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An assertion supported by power rather than evidence. Inquiry
is forbidden. An authoritative principle, belief, or statement of ideas or
opinion, especially one considered to be absolute truth.
- Dominance:
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The ability to inflict harm. Power based on force or threat of
force.
- Dominance Contest:
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A test or challenge to the present order of the dominance
hierarchy. Disputing your present rank in the dominance hierarchy. If the
challenge succeeds it will reorder the dominance hierarchy. If it fails, it
will affirm the dominance hierarchy.
- Dominance Hierarchy:
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The socially accepted rank ordering of individuals according
to their relative dominance. The network of relationships indicating what
individual submits to what others.
- Dyadic Relationship:
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A relationship between two entities.
- Ego:
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Synonym for Self.
- Egotist:
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Definition
- Egotism
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Definition
- Emotional Competency:
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The skills to recognize, interpret, and respond constructively
to emotions in yourself and others.
- Esteem:
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To hold in high regard
- Emotion:
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A mental state that has a strong feeling component.
- Empathy:
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a deep appreciation for another's situation and point of view
- Evidence:
- Observed phenomenon.
- Exasperation:
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A moderate form of anger caused by
having your patience unduly tried.
- FAE:
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The Fundamental Attribution Error. Incorrectly attributing an
action or intent to an agent.
- Faith:
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A belief unsupported by evidence.
- Ferocity:
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An intense form of anger.
- Flow:
- The state of gratification we enter when we feel completely engaged in
what we are doing. The absence of emotion or consciousness. Absorption, the
loss of consciousness, and the stopping of time.
- Forgiveness:
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Definition
- Frustration:
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A mild form of anger.
- Fury:
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An intense form of anger.
- Goal:
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An end state to be attained.
- Gratification:
- Total absorption and right action.
- Gratitude:
- Appreciating the kindness of another.
- Guilt:
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Failure to meet the another's standard of behavior.
- Habituation:
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Definition - be sure to mention the boiled frog. Use Domjan
book
- Hebbian Learning
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Memories formed in the brain by enhancing the couplings
between concurrently firing neurons.
- Honor:
- Absence of shame.
- Human Nature
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The intrinsic similarities shared by all humans.
- Human Rights:
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The inalienable and just claims of all humans.
- Hubris:
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Unrealistically high self esteem.
- Humiliation:
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A loss of status or image.
- Impulse Awareness:
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Becoming aware of an emotion-driven impulse before taking
action.
- Impulse Control:
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The ability to increase the time gap between impulse and
action.
- Incensed:
- A moderate form of anger.
- Indignation:
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A moderate form of self-righteous anger
caused by trespassing into the territory established by
dignity
- Insult:
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An attack on a person's dignity,
status, or dominance. A
demonstration of disrespect. Insult often provokes anger.
- Integrity
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Agreement, congruence, and alignment of intent (thinking),
expression (saying), and action (doing).
- Intimacy
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Definition
- Intimidation:
- Definition
- Irritation:
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A mild form of anger.
- Limbic Attractors
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High usage paths and organizing structures in our memories.
from "A general theory of love" page 125
- Limbic Calculus:
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Synonym for Primal Messaging
- Limbic System:
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A group of interconnected deep brain structures, common to all
mammals, and involved in olfaction, emotion, motivation, behavior, and various
autonomic functions.
- Livid:
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An intense form of anger.
- Long Term Potentiation
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Definition - relate to Hebbian Learning
- Losing Face:
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An image change reflecting a loss in
status.
- Magnitude gap
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Harm is more painful to the victim than it is satisfying to the aggressor
- Mood:
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Definition
- Motivation:
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Definition
- Narcissism:
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Self centered, lacking in empathy ??? See: http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/dsm-iv.html
- Need:
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A condition that must be satisfied to remain healthy.
- Offended:
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A mild form of anger.
- Operant Conditioning
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Definition
- Oppression:
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Suppressed, limited, or controlled by unjust use of force or authority
- Ostracism:
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Definition
- Outrage:
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A moderate form of anger.
- Passive-aggressive:
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Hostile inaction. Covert defiance. Stealth spite.
- Perception:
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Definition - "selective focus of attention"
- Personality Trait:
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Definition
- Personal Power:
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Power derived from the intrinsic characteristics and behavior
of a person. Contrast this with positional power.
- Pissed:
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A moderate form of anger.
- Pleasure:
- Sensory indulgences, immediate delight.
- Power:
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An asymmetrical dyadic relationship.
- Positional Power:
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Power derived from a defined role, such as "the boss".
Contrast this with personal power.
- Predator:
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Definition
- Pride:
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Satisfaction from our assessment of an increase in
status
- Primal Messaging:
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Signaling between the limbic systems of two beings. This
signaling is often non-verbal, and often takes place below the level of
consciousness.
- Primal Thinking:
- A simplified form of thinking we often revert to during times of
fear, anger,
hate, or other stress. It is based on the
fallacy of polarized thinking. It often takes the form of simple,
absolute, but incorrect rules.
- Rage:
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An intense form of anger.
- Reactive Offenders:
- People who are hypersensitive to disparagement and rejection who react
violently.
- Rebel:
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Refusing to acknowledge, or acquiesce to, the dominance of
another. Refusal to submit.
- Reconciliation:
- A bilateral understanding of a consistent or compatible account of injury
or loss. The goals of reconciliation are to ensure non repetition, healing
and healthy co-existence.
- Relatedness:
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Definition in the context of self efficacy theory.
- Remorse:
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Feeling genuinely bad about the hurt you have caused and taking full responsibility
for the hurtful choices you made.
- Responsibility:
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Having a duty or obligation to act.
- Reparations:
- Payments intended to compensate a victim for a loss
- Retribution
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Definition
- Resentment:
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Definition
- Respect:
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Acknowledgement of a person's high status.
- Revenge:
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Retaliation for humiliation
- Sarcasm:
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Definition
- Scapegoat:
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Blaming a Victim for the Group's Misfortune
- Self:
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Definition
- Self efficacy theory
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Definition
- Self-esteem:
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Your own appraisal of your actual status.
Your self image.
- Self-Righteousness:
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Definition
- Sensitization:
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Definition - use Domjan book.
- Shame:
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Dissatisfaction from your assessment of a decrease in
status
- Should:
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A plea to behave according to a particular (often implicit)
set of values and beliefs.
- Shunning
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Definition
- Snob:
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Selfishly and inappropriately concerned with
status.
- Speaking Truth to Power:
- Definition
- Spite:
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Definition
- Staring back a thought:
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Focusing your attention, at the earliest possible instant, to
analyze an impulse or emotion. The goal is to engage your cognitive abilities
to subordinate an impulse to your values.
- Status:
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Endowed with valuable assets. The ability to help.
- Stonewalling:
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This cold withdrawal from
interaction is an ineffective, destructive,
passive-aggressive, response to anger.
- Submission:
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Acknowledging, and acquiescing to, the
dominance of another. The opposite of rebellion.
- Sulking:
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A passive form of anger
- Taboo
- Using power or fear to
restrict inquiry.
- Team
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A group of people who choose to be united by common goals
- Tournament Species:
- Definition [link to jealousy]
- Trespass:
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To infringe on the privacy,
time, space, or attention of another
- Tyranny:
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Definition
- Tyrant:
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Anyone who exercises power in a harsh, cruel, or destructive
manner. An oppressive, harsh, arbitrary person.
- Value:
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A principle considered worthwhile or valuable. A standard of
judgment or appraisal. (contrast with belief.)
- Vengeance:
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Retaliation for humiliation
- Vibes
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Informal and approximate synonym for
primal messages
- Violence:
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Harm to another
- Vulnerability:
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Definition
- Whistleblowing:
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A communication intended to expose a wrongdoing by those in
power.
- Wrath:
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An intense form of anger.
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Fear, Sadness, Anger, Joy, Surprise, Disgust, Contempt,
Anger, Envy, Jealousy, Fright, Anxiety, Guilt, Shame, Relief, Hope, Sadness, Depression, Happiness,
Pride, Love, Gratitude, Compassion, Aesthetic Experience,
Joy, Distress, Happy-for, Sorry-for, Resentment, Gloating, Pride, Shame, Admiration, Reproach,
Love, Hate, Hope, Fear, Satisfaction, Relief, Fears-confirmed, Disappointment, Gratification,
Gratitude, Anger, Remorse,
power, dominance, status, relationships |
